Fit and Happy for Life (NO GUILT NEEDED!)

 

You ate a donut sitting in the break room at work ( even if you swore up and down you would not). You skipped the gym to meet friends for happy hour drinks (even if you say you want to do five days this week) . Now your whole week of fitness and a healthy diet is a wash. And you fight for it, right? How do I know? I 've been there too , hell we 've probably all been there at some point.

Kristin Neff, Associate Professor Ph.D. in educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, pointed out how common it is for us to punish us mentally this way, we will think shame us into better behavior . But as our own Mean Girl is anything but productive.

In my first attempts to build a healthy lifestyle and body shape, I sacrificed my life for what I thought make me happy. Days have become structured around workouts and meal planning, preparation and timing. It has become "all or nothing". A "bad" meal, a drive failed and I was meeting a failure. I fight and chained me on the treadmill. This attitude to fitness began to attract attention. Social gatherings were difficult and the family and friends question my eating habits.

Dedication become an obsession. Exercise and healthy diet was designed to enrich my life, did not become my life.

As the old saying goes, even "too much of a good thing can be bad. "Strive to live a healthy life is one thing, let it control your life is a whole new kind of beast. The time of your life is controlled by what you eat and how often you can go to the gym, then it 's time to reassess.

It was time for me to find common ground. Are you struggling to find the balance? Is it time to find your balance? What does that mean?

Fitness and healthy eating should be involved in nothing but positive connotations. Exercise reduces stress and helps maintain a healthy weight. Eating fresh fruits and vegetables along with whole grains and lean protein is the secret to living a long life. These are tools to do the things you love to do even better.

Middle is where you can enjoy a piece of birthday cake without worrying that it will make you gain weight. Ground is missing a workout without punishment. Ground is not obsessed with the number on the scale.

Find common ground does not apply the ideal diet or make a detailed workout regiment, but finding the right frame of mind and also having self- compassion. A combination of both can go a long way in motivating you.

"Self - Compassion is good for you, especially if you make a mistake," said Neff. "As it turns out, take care of yourself is one of the best motivators to do what is healthy for you rather than what's harmful to you."

Read on to learn how to be more compassionate with yourself and how to help find your ground.

First, drop the sergeant mentality. Stop using terms such as "I have ... " And set strict targets . You are yourself below and feel bad about it. Instead encourage you, as you would to a friend. Neff said," Motivate yourself to do the right thing not not because you are poor , but because you want to be healthier, or land your dream job, or whatever your goal is. Keep your eyes on the prize, which is to be happy."

Jean Fain, a psychotherapist at the Harvard Medical School said: "You say mean things: "I would not eat that",  I'll gain weight "is a facility for abused. "This is because self-criticism elicits negative emotions such as anxiety and self-hatred , and we will do everything possible to get rid of them, like digging in a gallon of ice cream in the freezer. the next time you feel bad eating a cookie, remember self- compassion. instead of saying, "screw" that could trigger overeating instead say "the only ice cream. not the end of the world . Meals Then I can return to more healthy choices."

Life is meant to be enjoyed, so instead let "be healthy" control your life, let you make life more fulfilling.